HandlerBars

(C)uffy season…

I admire detail oriented souls. Because I understand how easy it is to overlook the iNsiGNiFicAnce of anything that isn’t pedestaled. Building a solid foundation, in a connection intended to lock you in for a lifetime…requires this ability. Since people can get so comfortable pretending not to see what’s right in front of their face…the longer they have the option of looking at it. So choosing an energy, who’s intentional with how they handle you…gives dedication…instead of a slow-death sentence. Which breeds bonds that thrive off of consideration…instead of expectation.

Being handled by a soul that isn’t meant for you, feels like being taken for a ride…seated on unforgiving steel…that forces you to feel everything that the other one, seated comfortably on a cushion, doesn’t have to experience. Which allows the pampered party to steer y’all in the direction of unforgiving paths…because they don’t have to experience how hard it actually is to get through them. But a partner…in crime…understands the position they have you in. And their desire to protect you…allows them to hyper focus on finding alternative paths that won’t add to what you’re already going through.

OnE cOuLd aRgUe tHe nEeD fOr eAcH tO hAVe tHeiR oWn MeANs oF tRAnSpoRTaTion. But a real union will always feature moments where discomfort is unequally distributed. It’s in those moments where you have to be able to trust that the person you’ve chosen to lock in with…will meet you where you are. Paying attention to whether there is potential for this type of in tandem thought process, in the beginning, prevents the pain that comes with poor pus…pee…planning management towards the end. And if someone shows signs of you mattering enough, to them, to consistently display this characteristic trait…hold on and don’t let go.

Love,

Choosy