Detaching

“The only way to correct the damage that I’ve done to both my little sister and my niece is to accept defeat and detach. I was so busy trying to stop my sister from being so codependent on me that I didn’t realize how codependent I’d become on having her child around. The trauma bond that was developing between us needed to be severed and if my absence fixes what I broke…I can’t war against that. My solution would’ve never been to completely remove my presence from her picture but I don’t have the privilege of changing that decision. So I have to accept the fact that even though this situation is nothing like the way I want it to be…it is what it is.”