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A paragraph…on player parenting…

I had another (re)parenting session with my BM a couple weeks ago. The conversation was centered around the intentionality she put behind making sure none of her kids…achieved what she couldn’t. Unless those achievements…were something she could brag to familiar strangers about. So she was the first to take credit for our diplomas, degrees and designations. Because these things don’t invoke her competitive nature….that only comes out…whenever any of us gets into a relationship. Which has me feeling like she intentionally raised children who’d be ill prepared for intimacy…while silently encouraging us to stay in any of the emotionally abusive connections we subsequently attracted. IMO, it’s because our professional success pedestals her pArEnTinG. But our intimate success leaves her misery…without the company of codependence.

Love,

Choosy