CTE

Can’t Tolerate Entitlement…

A man who claims to have been raised by a mother who instilled morals, values and integrity in them...can't find comfort in being emotionally abusive to the women in his life. Because knowingly inflicting that type of mental distress...goes against what he claims to have been taught. But a man who was raised by a mother that failed to teach him how to regulate his emotions...is able to avoid the accountability that should come with his abuse.

This is usually possible in instances where there are no consequences for his actions, from the people in his environment. And the mother, responsible for his emotional instability, is usually his biggest enabler. Since she 9/10 views him as the husband she couldn't keep...or the husband she'll never have. So encouraging his abuse, by way of her refusal to hold him accountable for it, is her way of ensuring that he'll never have a productive relationship...outside of the one he has with her.

Son husbands usually avoid holding their mother accountable for their behavior as well. Because in order to do that, he would have to use the voice that she intentionally taught him not to use on her...in an effort for her to keep him tethered to her expectation of him acting just like her...by way of recognizing her maternal abuse...and enabling it through his refusal to hold her accountable.

Love,
Choosy