Don't like me enough to lie...
I’m an unforgiving person…with certain people. Because my expectation of them aligns with who they present themselves as. So if I’m led to believe I can put my trust in someone…I expect them to exhibit behavior that’s trustworthy. We live in a realm of representatives though. Which makes sense, since unfiltered authenticity is an acquired taste. But that still doesn’t explain why so many people are stamping themselves as solid…when they fluff and fold the minute they get pressed about pretending.
I respect reality. So if you show me you’re not sh!t…I can work with that. But putting on for the sake of tricking me into treating you like you’re someone you’re not…is a poppable offense. Because taking away my option to choose how I handle you, based on me having all the facts…means you knew you wouldn’t be chosen, if you didn’t lead with lies. This filter feed is the catfish culture we’re baited into believing in. Since it pays more to put on. And it’s always the ones who stand in their truth…who end up being villainized…for not buying into the bullsh*t.
It’d be wrong for me to act like I haven’t bait and switched before though. Because I know how it feels to want something so bad…that you’ll wear a mask to make it happen. But eventually whatever is being kept in the dark, finds its way to the light. And if you aren’t the type of person who can take accountability for your actions…the punishment is always more painful than the initial rejection you were trying to avoid. Unfortunately, we live in a world that rewards us for being everything but ourselves. So if I could offer any advice to those still living that life…it’d be to actually do the work that allows you to get picked. Instead of putting so much effort into playing make believe…just to get picked over.
Love,
Choosy
